They say love is a beautiful thing which it indeed is or at least can be. So, why then are people prejudice in who they love or choose to love. People generally tend to classify individuals in two classes tagged ‘black’ and white’ based on their skin colour. It beats me when let’s say a black guy will say ‘oh i prefer to be with a white girl’ or a white girl saying oh i prefer a chocolate guy’ what in the world is chocolate anyway.
Let’s not even talk about the racial myopic individuals who say it must i repeat ‘must’ be a man/woman from my tribe which i think is just crazy and sad.
While writing this i can consider several factors affecting this subject such as:
Culture– it may happen, that you are from certain parts of the world where it is ‘forbidden’ to be with someone from another tribe or race and out of fear join in to the outcry of ‘your people’ exclaiming that you can only marry people from your place. This tradition, in places it still exists i just shake my head because it is ‘so stupid’ in all ramifications. why in the world will you be prevented from pursuing the love that your heart desires simply because it is what my culture demands. when you ask these people the reasons for such traditions they say
‘yes you see, our culture has this religion, this believe, and we cannot accept someone from a different believe coming in to influence or destroy what we have build and have believed in for centuries’.
okay, that, i understand can be hard but, don’t you think it is up to the two individuals involved to decide if they can cope with these issues, can’t they reach an understanding and do they have ground rules that it is mutually agreeable to counter future concerns. these are the kinds of questions to be asked not a solid no and the topic like its some kind of deadly disease to stay away from.
Discrimination and stereotypes: Basically, Mr A is from AAA and they are all selfish people in AAA so, Mr A must be selfish too, without giving him a chance you conclude that you cannot be with him. Miss B is from BBB, is from a rich family and Mr Bb is also from BBB but from a poor family the moment Miss B finds out he is poor that the end, she stops seeing him. Miss B here has been selfish and already tagged him as a ‘gold digger’ not in my social class/league’ which might not be the case however, it is also possible that Mr Bb finds out she is rich and maneuvers his way just to get his hands on her money, to be fair this class of people are just pitiful
Personal ulterior motives: So, you might want someone because they are a particular skin colour because you feel that tribe/race will give you more opportunities so, you go in and befriend that random person to attain your selfish goal. people in this group do you ever reason how dumb you sound and think. or a ‘black girl’ saying a prefer i a ‘white man’ because i think am too dark and getting married to a black man will make my children even darker. Don’t get me wrong here, have your preferences but do not base them on unimportant things that has zero effect, so what if you have darker or whiter children- beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
i know people will read this and still continue with their way of life, i think love is characterised by happiness, peace and devoid of deceit and ulterior motives. i also know, people will argue that they can make their own happiness and its nobody’s business who they want or they reasons behind it. of course its nobody’s business whatever, makes you sleep well at night. however i say love should not be judged by the colour of your skin or marred by culture, personal gains or stereotypes.
love me by my heart and not my skin colour